Be Your Own Valentine

PostAuthorIcon Author: nancy.montier
“If it is a virtue to love my neighbor as a human being, it must be a virtue – and not a vice – to love myself, since I am a human being, too.“
Eric Fromm
Love - Purpose - Presence - Choice

Love - Purpose - Presence - Choice

Self Love is the inner blooming flower from which radiates the most exquisite, delightful, fresh aroma and the gentlest, most powerful, brightest energy.  Self love is the gateway to all love.  It is present in order to receive love from others, otherwise we do not recognize it.  It is present in order to give love to others, otherwise we do no know what to give;  It is present when we love God or Life or Source, or whatever it is that is all of everything for you, for it allows for the existence of such  a relationship.

Self love – if you believe you do not have it, then check and see if you have a pulse and a breath.  Yes?  Good, then you do.  You need to allow it to blossom in you, and move into a leading role in your play, your experiment as Nancy or Joyce or Sam or George.  How? Here’s an idea – see what happens.

Let’s suppose your self love, that blossom of warm bright energy and exquisite aroma that you offer to yourself is merely covered up with garbage thoughts and beliefs.  They are garbage because they are not needed, they serve no purpose.  They might have at one time, to protect you and help you sort out your world, but when they keep the blossom of self love buried, they are garbage.  Refuse the refuse.  Some fairly common garbage that could be burying your self love are:

I can hurt people.  I’m bad
If I wasn’t around, others would be happier.  I cause pain
I hate my body, it is so not OK this fat or thin or sick or male or female.
I’m scared I’m scared I’m scared I’m scared
If my parent’s didn’t love me, I must be worthless
If I were a good parent I’d spend more time with my children.  If I were a good employee, I’d spend more time at the office

Action:

Pick up one piece of garbage thought.  Before you throw it out, hold it in your hands.  Know that thought was useful once.  Thank it for its use, for how it helped you sort out pain or fear or lack.  Send kind thoughts to the you who made it up at whatever age you were.  When you’re ready, imagine your way to release the energy of that thought from its negative hold on you – perhaps it goes in the compost pile, is buried in the earth to decompose, or is burned in a bright fire (what color is it?)  Or….?

Now, be willing to fall in love with yourself.  Begin with one area that you can love with no problem and where no thoughts hold you back.  What do you love about your body? Maybe your ankles or calves?  Can you love the you that got that degree or held down that job or took on that physical challenge?  List five areas you can love.

Good.  Now  nourish that little blossom of self love. Go to it every day.  Take a moment and treasure, cherish, and savor that part.   Just the statement, I am willing to love, or I am willing to learn to love, is nurturing.  Go out and buy a Valentine’s  card that says just what you want to say to yourself.  Celebrate you.

Great!  Now pour your Valentine love out on everyone else.
Reply to this blog -  what is your list of what you love about you?
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