The Rubber Band Factor

I spent three days just south of the San Francisco airport at a seminar with Jeff Slayter and Kane Minknus, http://jeffandkane.com/, two passionate trainers bringing their brilliance to service professionals as well as Fortune 500 companies.  They are an example of a unique brilliance plus passion meeting the world’s need. Their passion is to free people up from negative beliefs and pattenrs in order to get on with making the difference they want to make with their business.  Their brilliance is their experience as entrepreneurs, coaches and consultants; their practiced presence in front of a room, and practical and useful steps to change.

Here’s one great insight I learned from Jeff and Kane: we are far more entangled in old family patterns, unconscious decisions, and limiting beliefs than we realize. This snarl of beliefs, history, genetics and more is called our ecology.  It acts like a rubber band snapping us back into our status quo whenever we dare to take on something so audacious as to live the life we want.  Perhaps we desire love, abundance, peace, and success and our ecology is about scarcity, no self-worth, fear,failure, or being the doormat.  Until we take steps to soften the pull of our ecology on us as we step out into our full life we will find ourselves on our butts back where we started.  An example of this – 80% of people who win the lottery are either dead or broke within five years – because their ecology could not expand to allow that much wealth – they were too different from family and friends and their own deeply held beliefs.

I won’t go into all the ways to relieve the pull of ecology on us as we seek our desires, but here is a step in the process – becoming aware.

* Whenever you act a certain way in a certain situation notice what you do, what you think, and what you say to yourself or others.  For example, in the seminar there were opportunities to work with Jeff and Kane in the front of the room. Being up there would be personally very enlightening.  However, I sat glued to my chair.  I clenched up – with tightness in my chest, feet planted on floor.  I remember that same feeling whenever I get in front of a room, way back to 1st grade show and tell. Any of you ever like that?

* Next, ask yourself, “What are the beliefs of someone acting and feeling like this?” Jot down several of them.  In the example above, someone who stayed in their chair instead of take an opportunity could be afraid of being found out, afraid of not looking good, not believe they deserve it, afraid to be in a place of not knowing something, afraid of ridicule, believe they are shy, feel ashamed….and more.

* Pick the one or ones that most resonate and notice where else it shows up in life.  Get acquainted and curious.

I  invite you to take this further and contact me to take on ways to move through these beliefs to unleash your brilliance in the world.

What are your dreams, desires and/or goals – the ones that come from your heart?  Leave a comment.