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Turn-on is compelling, enrolling, motivating, creative, fun…..and more.  At a women’s group this week we filled two flip chart pages with words defining and expanding what turn-on is. I realized that when I’m turned-on, things get done, business flourishes, life works, and relationships are alive.  When I’m turned off, the opposite is true.  I never thought of it this way, but one of my joys as a coach is to support turn-on in my clients.  Turn-on keeps their energy, juices, ideas, connections flowing in a project, business, relationship, etc.

Napoleon Hill, in his book “Think and Grow Rich” has a chapter called “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation”.  He says that the highly successful people he studied and those he read about  going back 2000 years “possessed highly developed sex natures”.  In other words, they’re turned on!  He writes about transmuting sexual desire from only physical expression to creative and intuitive and mental outlets.

“Sex desire [turn-on] is the most powerful of human desires.  When driven by this desire, men [and women] develop keenness of imagination, courage, will-power, persistence, and creative ability unknown to them at other times.  So strong and impelling is the desire for sexual contact that men [and women] freely run the risk of life and reputation to indulge it.  When harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling including, of course, the accumulation of riches.” Napoleon Hill

Many of my clients have been looking for work, and they are not turned on.  Sometimes we find that the kind of work they feel they should be seeking is not really the work they desire right now.  They get turned on when they let their dreams come to the surface.

Mini-Coaching:
If you’re not turned-on about something you care about, just notice without judging what is happening.  Explore the circumstances and the environment around you as well as within you.  Get curious about what might be the turn-off.   Don’t immediately try to fix it- keep exploring and allowing it to be for a few hours or days.  Begin an inquiry, “What is turn-on for me?”  “Where am I turned on in my life?”  “What’s happening in me and around me when I’m turned on?”  When you’re ready, turn up the turn-on in your turned-off situation by experimenting with inspired changes and actions.  I’m available to work with six more clients in August for you to make some powerful changes here.

Have a hot, turned-on rest of the summer, because why not?  What’s turned on in your life?  Why?

A Leg UP

“One of the great discoveries of human unfoldment is that happiness and joy are not effects, but causes…The happy person is forever encountering things…to vindicate his happy spirit.” Eric Butterworth

Happiness is a choice

Happiness is a choice and it doesn’t come from outside, as much as the advertisers and transformation gurus want us to believe that it does. They say, “Buy this sexy car; great hair color; get your lashes thick, long, with no clumps and then you will be happy.” “Get the relationship, the promotion, the fit body, then you will be happy.”

Our culture and language habits make happiness appear to be achieved by accomplishment or product. This is like people believing the sun revolves around the earth because that’s the evidence. Happiness doesn’t revolve around things or accomplishment. Things and accomplishment revolve around happiness and joy. Watch babies learn to walk. They don’t deprive themselves of happiness until walking is achieved. In fact, they’d probably take a lot longer to learn if they weren’t happy.

So Choose it

I was doing sit up/ crunches yesterday and I didn’t feel all that happy so I didn’t feel like doing them. Then I decided just to laugh as I counted out my allotment of crunches, and it was easy to laugh! It was contagious and kept itself going and lifted my mood for the rest of the day! Hah! I didn’t have to buy a new car, get my hair colored with the latest and greatest, lose that extra weight, or solve global warming. In the moment, in the present, in the now, we can choose. “There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way.” says Eykis.

According to my friend and Law of Attraction Coach, Noelle,…You ALWAYS get back what you put out; NO EXCEPTIONS!” So put out joy, fun, whimsy, glee, laughter, chuckles, jubilance, happiness, smiles, giggles, jokes, cheer, ecstasy, playfulness. Noelle is the happiest person I know – she watches her thoughts and nearly always allows the thoughts that feel good, and discards the thoughts that don’t. She does this in the midst of challenges that would put many of us on a downward spiral of despair because we forget we can choose.

Don’t Dumb Down Your Joy

Not only do we mistakenly believe that happiness is a result of circumstances, we also believe that we need to stifle our joy because others don’t have as much or we can’t boast or show pride. What on earth good does it do to dumb down our joy because the world is in a pickle, a spouse is mad or sick?! Eric Butterworth writes, “At the very time when we need more light, we reduce the flame of jubilance, and walk in darkness.”

How Do I Generate My Own Happiness?

To turn up the flame find one small thing to be grateful for – and then another and savor them. Also, we can recall and talk of successes and what works. Simply smiling or laughing changes your energy.

OK, go ahead and laugh. Make up a belly laugh. I was struggling with writing this article – so I just started laughing. It’s much easier to have ideas flow through a joyful mood. I also invite you to see if you can make others happy – that might make you happy. Notice if it’s their choice or you can force it on them.  Just “don’t worry, be happy” this week.

Follow your joy to activities and perspectives that have you thrive. It’s definitely in my territory as a coach -much of my work is about reconnecting people with their purpose, their strengths, and rekindling joy for their lives.

Do you realize you can declare that you have a clean slate at the beginning of the second half of the year?  I just worked on my 3rd quarter plan on  Eric Lofholm’s  sales protege call.  We’re at the beginning of the quarter.  It’s time to start fresh with the second half of the year. You may have done everything in your plan, or you may have veered off most of the time.   Give yourself permission to start with a clean slate.  Complete and let go of what you did or did not do up till now.  No amount of thinking, regretting, celebrating or sadness will make the future any better.  Just shake it like a tree, get all the apples out of it that you can to take with you into the future.  Those apples are the gifts of learning from the past six months.
Complete the past 6 months.  Use a ritual, declaration, celebration dinner, or whatever it takes.  Then breathe and let yourself become aware of what wants to be created next.

The next step is to assess where you are and picture where you want to be at the end of the time frame.  Do you want to be joyfully employed? Making another $10,000 or $100,000? Three sizes smaller?  Then work backwards. Who do you have to be to achieve those goals? What will you learn?  What results will you produce in July, Aug and September?  Each week? What will motivate you?  How will you handle breakdowns this time?  How will you keep your goals fresh in your mind?

Finally, make a plan.   Make it as detailed or general as you need to be successful.  For me, great detail just makes me crazy.  I like broad brush strokes.  For others, details are it.   The plan isn’t over until it’s on your calendar.

“Good business leaders create a vision, articulate the vision, passionately own the vision, and relentlessly drive it to completion”. Thomas Hardy

Leave a comment – Did you declare a clean slate?  What is your planning process?

Idea #1 in the last blog was about you as a new and improved product.   Idea #2  is borrowed from sales; it is scripting.  OK, you might want to throw me out of your network for suggesting this, but hear me out.   The more people I talk to, the more I realize that my biggest challenge in making sales is your  biggest challenge in getting in front of people or having control of a call or interview.   My sales mentor, Eric Lofholhm says using scripts was the biggest boost to his sales than almost anything else.  I reluctantly started using scripts and found I was much more comfortable in presenting my services and asking for business.  Good people – sales scripts are noble, necessary, and are just creative, informative, and focused communication with an agreement and/or money included in it.  A script saves both you and the person you are presenting to time and energy – you have a clear direction.  Here are a few areas you might want to have a script ready to use:

1. When a HR person or recruiter calls you on Friday at 4 PM and you are not in shape to go through an interview
2. When you cold call an HR person,
3. hiring manager,
4. or someone about an informational interview
5. When you are asked a question in an interview that throws you off.  A one line mini script that gives you a moment to collect your thoughts
6. A script for each interview – the questions you’ll ask, the concerns you have
7. At the end of the interview – a powerful completion with what you say if you want the job, if you do not want the job, if you think you’d be better qualified in a different position….etc.

What else?  Write some here in the comments – even some samples.

You can download a free audio on sales from Eric Lofholm here  (https://m269.infusionsoft.com/go/7sec/Nancy) It will have many ideas you can transfer to interviewing, setting up interviews, and organizing yourself around presenting yourself as a service or product rather than an employee.

Get out of the box here, and borrow from other industries to find new approaches to the job search.

New Packaging

Amp Up Idea Number One: As the entrepreneur of your life (you must look after you, the days of the long term corporate job are gone with just a few exceptions) part of your job finding process is to package  yourself.  Most companies put out a new and improved version of their product every few years (or sooner for software!).  What’s the new and improved you?  Amp up with a product overhaul.

What is your core product?  Consider what you love to do, the part of your work that makes your heart sing and the time fly by.  What is that?  Why do you love it so?  Why would an employer be lucky to have you – what benefits will they receive from buying you?  If you were to look at all of your skills, how does a combination of them enhance your core product?  In what new ways can you combine them in order to come out with the new and improved you?

You can take courses to add a new skill.  You can get a group of supportive colleagues and friends, and brainstorm up new job descriptions that combines some of your interests and skills in new and improved ways.   You can take your so-called shortcomings (”too old”, “too young”, “too long out of area”) and flip them into assets (”experienced”, “longevity”, “energetic”, “coachable”, “out getting other experience to bring back to this area”).

OK, let’s hear about some new improved you’s!

I met today’s topic three times this week.  I ran into my dear
friend at Home Depot where I was buying yet more flowers,
vegetables and soil amenities. What a chance meeting.  Her form of
creation is the business she runs – bringing out the brilliant
marketing in solopreneurs.  She shared that she realized she could
not continue to create from the old ideas and inspirations, even
though they were less than a couple years old.  She had to create
from who she was now, what she was learning now.  Always generating
from here forward.

Then Sue Walden wrote the same theme in her ezine.  She was
preparing to do her one day workshop, “Living Beyond Your Limits”
in the UK and found that she did not have her folder and handouts.
She said,  Why not re-create it?  Times have changed and I am not
the same person I was when I designed it 2 years ago.  I wonder
what it would look like now?  She did re-create it and it’s better
than ever.

Finally, Patrick Ryan wrote about change in his mon thy ezine,
“Awakened Wisdom”,  He says the way things are tend to stay the
same, homeostasis.  Change needs to reckon with that force – not be
deterred.

I’ve been working Emerging Brilliance for 10 years now.  I’ve made
incremental changes over the years – and I am very different than I
was 10 years ago in my business.  Yet it feels like a bigger change
is upon me.   I asked myself, what if I close it down and let my
expression in the world re-emerge?  What would show up?  The first
thing that showed up is, “you can’t shut down!”  “You’re branded,
you’re established.”  “Keep it going the same – you’re too busy to
change.” The thing that is persisting, in this case my business,
really does have its own inertia of existence.  Yet what wants to
emerge now that has no room to exist while I busily continue
business as usual?   What old programs, ideas, services are
persisting?  What brilliance is waiting to bloom and just needs
some sunshine and room to grow?

Action
Take a look at your own life. We’re in a time of upheaval locally,
nationally, and globally.  Change is upon us.  What changes are
calling you forth, are demanding attention?  What is it time to
end?  To begin?   Who do you need on your team to make the change
happen?  Who do you need to be?  What’s stopping you?  Great!  Now
take the most inspired, appropriate action to allow and embrace
this change.

Nancy Montier
www.emergingbrilliance.com
Nancy@emergingbrilliance.com
510-886-7374
19053 Helton Street
Castro Valley, CA  94546

What would you do if you lost your job and your industry also disappeared?  I just returned from a Membership Job Search Group in a town here in the San Francisco Bay Area where unemployment is at 11%.   I went because I wanted to  find out why I hadn’t received replies to my inquiries about speaking there.  The upside is that there were lots of people, they were networking, sharing success, creating fundraisers to buy supplies for the club, and helping each other across the river called unemployment.

The downside is there were lots of people with vast talents not able to get paid to use them.  The office personnel and volunteers were too busy processing members to deal with speakers.  They can’t even have guest speakers because of the space crunch.  They  talked about having to limit membership – they have so many people they cannot safely gather in the rooms they have access to.   No new members will be added until several current members are safely in jobs.

Here’s an industry (managing unemployed) that’s growing, but mostly supported by governtment funds that are severely lacking.  Any ideas how to support these folks? They need larger meeting space, supplies, and jobs.  Please leave a comment with ideas and resources.  Thank you!

What to do if you don’t find a spot for you in the group.

1) If you can take advantage of the classes they offer without becoming a member of the group, do that- the classes are invaluable and focus on resumes, interviewing and job finding techiques.

2) Find like-minded people, google “mastermind” and set up your own success or accountability group.  Like-minded means everyone in the group has a similar goal:  get a job in 3 months, figure out a new career, etc.

3) Find a coach.  I have an online, low cost  group for job motivation support

4) Look on the social networking sites like Facebook and LinkedIn for online support communities.

5) Make a plan, create accountability if you need it, and go!

May your path be short, sweet and lead directly to good work.

“The hills are alive, with the sound of music.” (from The Sound of Music).
“For ye shall go out with joy, and be led forth with peace: the mountains and the hills shall break forth before you into singing, and all the trees of the field shall clap their hands.“   Isaiah 55:12

Surprisingly warm for the mountains, day dawns in our campground.   Today we climb Flattop Mtn. – 12,200 feet above sea level and an altitude change of 2000 feet over 4.5 miles.  Packing sandwiches, snacks, and water is quick as we need an early start to hightail it off the peak before the afternoon thunderstorms hit.  My two teenage nieces had a dream to conquer a peak this year.  Boots, socks, packs, binoculars and cameras all strapped, tied, pulled or slung onto shoulders or feet (appropriately).  We stride out of the campground and hit the trail by 8:40.

My niece, Julie (not her real name) has been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder.  I have very little idea what it’s like inside her mind and body, but outside it can show up as not focused, excessive worry about future or past events while trying to do a task, and heavy thoughts making heavy, slow footsteps.  Whatever it was, we knew her pace would keep us below timberline all day.  After the first half mile I took her hand and said, “You’ve got your rhythm, and it won’t get you up the mountain today.  How about trying another one?  Let’s sing, and you match my rhythm.”  She readily agreed (she’s wonderful about receiving support).  We sang and danced, “I’ve got rhythm, I’ve got music,   “I’ve got hiking boots,  Who could ask for anything more?”  My brother was a fierce timekeeper and held the stops to just a few.  After a while Julie said she could do it on her own and she spent the next half hour in her new energetic, steady rhythm.  She took hold of my hand again when she needed it and leaned into that mountain.

At about noon we emerge above timberline.  And oh, oh, oh, there are amazing stalks of pink elephant-head flowers blowing in the breeze; red and yellow Indian paintbrush, little purple moss campion hugging the lichen-speckled granite to avoid the wind.  Grey and brown furry pikas, the size of large guinea pigs, disappear with a warning squeak as we move past in our little rhythm dance.  On distant rocks in their shiny brown and black coats sit imperturbable marmots.  The tundra is an explosion of color, of tiny plants, of adaptation to cold and wind, and rocks, rocks, rocks!  Mountains, valleys, lakes, streams nearly shout with their crisp edges and vivid shapes.  Many groups that passed us earlier are marching down, because thunderclouds are building.

By 1:30 we reach the top!  My two nieces have conquered their first mountain!  We flop down in the tremendous wind and devour the best sandwiches the world has ever tasted. The mountain decides that’s enough and throws a hailstorm at us and we scramble into ponchos that flutter like flags.  We begin the climb down.  I hear Julie tell her dad as we keep an eye on the lighting moving across the valley, “You know my disease – that schizo affective thing?  I conquered it today!”  She paused and added, “I can do my homework now.”

ACTION
What’s your mountain today?  Tomorrow?  Next week?  What’s the one that might take 10 years to climb?  What’s the first step?  Who or what is stopping you?  Take action this week to start on the mountain you most want to climb. Celebrate the mountains you’ve conquered. Find the people and resources that will help keep you in the game!  And remember you are likely keeping someone in the game, too.

Peace,

Nancy