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A Question of Questing

Journey through the desertBilbo Baggins said, “It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.“  J.R.R. Tolkein

“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau

“Don’t ask what the world needs.  Ask what makes YOU COME ALIVE (my caps) and go do it.  Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” Howard Thurman

The quest for fulfillment and possibility calls all of us several time during our lives.  As children, every year is a quest filled with new learning and edges as we crawl, walk, talk, read,  taste new foods; learn about numbers,  history, nature, physics; and about parents, siblings, pain, joy and video games.  We grow up to choose a career, friends and intimate relationships, whether to have our own children or not, and on and on.

As adults, our lives often become less adventurous and more about being prudent, healthy, and following all the rules we’ve internalized.  Eventually, we outgrow our status quo and must begin a new quest for fulfillment or we will “explode” with frustration, pent up desire, or illness.

You KNOW it’s quest time when you experience any of these symptoms:

* Work that was fulfilling is no longer
* You dread getting up and going to work
* You should be happy with everything, but you’re not
* Your long-time lover just left or you just left your lover
* Your health and vitality have diminshed
* Your life has taken on a predictability that is stifling rather than comforting
* You have dishonored one or more high priority values long enough and it’s time to express them  before you explode
* You ache, you long, and you may or may not be able to put your finger on what’s missing

Where do you begin? You begin where you’re at. You begin with love.  Love what’s here before you go on a quest for what’s not here yet.  Do not be afraid of or angry about where you’re at.  Allow and love the not job state; the extra 40,60,100 pounds; the mixed up relationship; the unpaid bills. Sit down next to your fears and have coffee with them. Just own them.  Love your ability to create.  Resisting what is tends to keep it in place.

I truly love to work with women who are on a quest of fulfillment, spirituality, and letting their brilliance finally and fully emerge.  I’ve been on physical quests up mountains and biking across the country.  I’ve been on healing, spiritual and and career / fulfillment quests. I’ve been on educational quests for knowledge.  I still take large and small quests.  Contact me for an exploration session about your quest – and join me on one of the Awakening to Your True Purpose calls.

Graphic: Through the Desert © Stiven | Dreamstime.com

Be Your Own Valentine

“If it is a virtue to love my neighbor as a human being, it must be a virtue – and not a vice – to love myself, since I am a human being, too.“
Eric Fromm
Love - Purpose - Presence - Choice

Love - Purpose - Presence - Choice

Self Love is the inner blooming flower from which radiates the most exquisite, delightful, fresh aroma and the gentlest, most powerful, brightest energy.  Self love is the gateway to all love.  It is present in order to receive love from others, otherwise we do not recognize it.  It is present in order to give love to others, otherwise we do no know what to give;  It is present when we love God or Life or Source, or whatever it is that is all of everything for you, for it allows for the existence of such  a relationship.

Self love – if you believe you do not have it, then check and see if you have a pulse and a breath.  Yes?  Good, then you do.  You need to allow it to blossom in you, and move into a leading role in your play, your experiment as Nancy or Joyce or Sam or George.  How? Here’s an idea – see what happens.

Let’s suppose your self love, that blossom of warm bright energy and exquisite aroma that you offer to yourself is merely covered up with garbage thoughts and beliefs.  They are garbage because they are not needed, they serve no purpose.  They might have at one time, to protect you and help you sort out your world, but when they keep the blossom of self love buried, they are garbage.  Refuse the refuse.  Some fairly common garbage that could be burying your self love are:

I can hurt people.  I’m bad
If I wasn’t around, others would be happier.  I cause pain
I hate my body, it is so not OK this fat or thin or sick or male or female.
I’m scared I’m scared I’m scared I’m scared
If my parent’s didn’t love me, I must be worthless
If I were a good parent I’d spend more time with my children.  If I were a good employee, I’d spend more time at the office

Action:

Pick up one piece of garbage thought.  Before you throw it out, hold it in your hands.  Know that thought was useful once.  Thank it for its use, for how it helped you sort out pain or fear or lack.  Send kind thoughts to the you who made it up at whatever age you were.  When you’re ready, imagine your way to release the energy of that thought from its negative hold on you – perhaps it goes in the compost pile, is buried in the earth to decompose, or is burned in a bright fire (what color is it?)  Or….?

Now, be willing to fall in love with yourself.  Begin with one area that you can love with no problem and where no thoughts hold you back.  What do you love about your body? Maybe your ankles or calves?  Can you love the you that got that degree or held down that job or took on that physical challenge?  List five areas you can love.

Good.  Now  nourish that little blossom of self love. Go to it every day.  Take a moment and treasure, cherish, and savor that part.   Just the statement, I am willing to love, or I am willing to learn to love, is nurturing.  Go out and buy a Valentine’s  card that says just what you want to say to yourself.  Celebrate you.

Great!  Now pour your Valentine love out on everyone else.
Reply to this blog -  what is your list of what you love about you?

You Gotta Have a Plan

holiday-projectThe anniversary of the moon landing reminded me of the anniversary of a life-changing journey I created.  Twenty five years ago this summer I was riding my bicycle solo across the United States.  I was in Yellowstone and Grand Teton National Parks on 7/24/84 sharing two lane roads with gigantic motor homes – worse than the east coast traffic!

One of my big aha’s this week as I remembered this bike trip with a coach, is that I had a plan for the trip.  It was simple.  Every day I got up and pedaled at least 60 miles down a very clear path – the road – unless it was dangerously hot or pouring down rain.  The road took me east every day.  Not north, south or west.  East towards Boston and the Atlantic Ocean.  As long as I followed the road, and kept safety precautions, I would get to Boston, to Deborah D.s house – my best friend from high school.  Now, the problem with me in my business is that I keep changing plans.  I change marketing plans, I change my goals, I change niches. I doubt my vision.  I worry about money.  I take exits off the road to visit giant balls of string and two headed snakes.  I wander north and south and wonder why I’m no closer to Boston.
The Road
The road and my goal focused all of my energies. It kept me true and on task.  Sure, I never saw the two headed snake, but I reached Boston, I accomplished my goal.

Action

Take stock of your plan. What is it to honor it?  What are your two-headed snake detours?  What are three changes you’ll make to your plan or how you honor it?  I invite you to respond in the comments.  Thank you for the courage to invent yourself everyday into your greatness.

From Dirt to Miracle

Miracle in the Sun

Miracle in the Sun

Over the last several weekends I’ve planted 70 flowering and vegetable plants.  I watch their brilliance emerge as leaves and flowers, created out of the raw materials of earth, air, and sunlight – it’s so amazing!  Every plant draws on the same materials.  So where do these little seeds get the green, yellow, pink, purple and blue?  I have to go to the store to buy those colors.  How do they design rose petals, cherry blossoms, tomato leaves and their aromas, all from the same materials?  And soon the most fantastic brilliance of all will emerge- round, red, ripe tomatoes; crisp green beans; orange, green, and yellow squash, all full of sugars, proteins, minerals, and vitamins. What intelligence in the soul of a plant! Each has its own unique emerging brilliance.

People have unique brilliance – each uses the same raw materials of food, water, sunlight, air.  Each of us processes these materials through our set of genes, beliefs, desires and talents to create our own amazing lives- full of grace, beauty, challenge, and hardships.   We are such powerhouses of change and transformation – food, water, and oxygen are transformed into bodies that are tall, short, blond, dark, light, muscular, frail, and smart in a variety of ways.  Ideas, beliefs, thoughts, morals, values, and vision are transformed  into art, buildings, software, mathematics, plastic, pollution, walking, cell phones, games, swimming, driving, war, peace, acceptance, intolerance……!  What a masterpiece!  What a kaleidoscope of expression, of brilliance.  What creators we are.  The caterpillar metamorphasis is astounding, yet we do even more astounding transformations every day!   Celebrate your brilliance!

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